In life you are going to come up against negative comments regardless of where you are or what you are doing. It may be a loved one or family member that can not resist to comment on aspect on something you do say wear or be. Which in my opinion is worse to hear as this is someone you care about. There intention may be honorable but it is totally distractive to you.
The negative comment may come from someone else in your life such as a teacher, boss or a stranger. Some times it is good to access what purpose or intention these comments where intended for. I usually make this accessment based on the person giving them.
I think are they usually:
1. a negative person in general? Or
2. are they this critical personally? Or
3. are they trying to be constructive but it’s coming across as negative? Or
4. are they simply a random just hating because they are so depressed and sad with themselves they need to bring someone down to feel better?
In any case I use negative feedback as a determination and turn it into a positive. It’s a free motivator for me to be put down and bounce right on up again into a positive place. And depending on who this negative feedback is coming from as explained above, I usually just pitty the person giving it especially if it’s example 4.
There are honestly better ways to help someone rather then negatively. So if your a receiver of this type of feedback use it to motivate.
If you are the sender of this type of feedback consider this:
A. Will this achieve my desired outcome in ‘helping’ this person?
B. Is this just hurtful and is there a better way to approach helping this person?
C. Perhaps I should try productive and constructive feedback?
D. Picture yourself in there shoes, what would help you?
E. (for all those ‘haters’ in example 4) do I need to get a life and start looking within to see where I am sad and need to intentionally bring someone down?… Perhaps I need to talk to someone.
I hope this has helped you, I want to leave you with a thought:
Positivity is meant for all children to help them grow and shine in a world that needs brightness.
Enjoy.
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